MY STORY (IV): Adventures Come in Many Forms
Not only have my approach and meaning of traveling changed ever since I set foot on California soil more than two years ago. I went from “traveling solo or with friends” to “traveling with my like minded husband”.
Defining Adventure for Myself
And the latter is today’s topic: Adventures come in various forms, and that includes marriage.
This word “adventure” is thrown around almost mindlessly these days. I use it all too often myself. But what does it really mean?
In my opinion, “adventure” isn’t always this super sick trip, camping somewhere in the wilderness, backpacking around remote areas and sleeping at houses of locals in a place that’s far from being a typical tourist destination.
Adventure to me is, what I define for myself. It’s what gets me excited - and that can be going on a day trip to a nearby place I hadn’t been to yet. It’s all about your own understanding.
So, why am I boring you with this intro? Well, because my marriage, to me, is a real adventure. And it’s special for many reasons. But there is one major reason why I consider it an adventure (and yes, based on my abovementioned personal definition of adventure: It does get me pretty excited):
Two different passports. Two different nationalities.
The German and the American
Rickey is my biggest adventure. I am fortunate to live daily with my adventure pal, with someone who can be as spontaneous and excited about going somewhere - no matter how near and far - and has an open mind and heart. That was one of the main reasons why I felt drawn to him immediately (see last post) when we met. This shared adventure makes all other adventures even greater and more meaningful.
I was born and raised in Germany. I am thoroughly German. This makes the “being married to an American” even more interesting because as a matter of fact Rickey grew up in a different cultural environment. It may not be so extremely different from the German one but it still is a different culture and people have different values, opinions, viewpoints - you name it. And so does Rickey.
Especially when we go somewhere together, adventure is a thing, as we ultimately we are two different people with different backgrounds. Makes it all the more fun.
An Open Heart and Mind
My marriage also allows me to be more open towards different cultures. I myself live in a country now that is home, but that’s not my origin. So I am mindful of the people and their cultural habits here.
Spending life with my forever adventure pal makes going places - because of the different perspectives we sometimes have by nature - even more rewarding. It also greatly helps with personal growth, how I see the world, as I learn about myself.
Being a German expat and married to not just the love of my life but also best travel buddy is just so ironic. It certainly is the cherry on top.
I encourage you to define adventure for yourself. Whatever it is. Adventure is out there for all of us - and it’s ultimately something that gets us very excited to live life, learn and grow.
In whatever form this may be.