A Matter of Chance or Preparation?

You know, it’s funny and so darn scary at the same time when you think that someone who has never met you before has the power to judge your relationship and ultimately decide over your future. You wonder:  How much will I have to prepare to prove that we have chosen a life together? Or will too much preparation come off weird, because why would you need to prepare for something that simply requires authenticity and a whole lot of love?    I know I have been pretty much missing in action over here but this has three main reasons: I decided to take the leap and invest in the development of my content creation business and complete brand makeover, which means a lot of “homework”; Rickey and I are in the final stages of church wedding planning and the little details seem to be the most stressful ones; well, and then there is our eagerly awaited “interview” next week before we head to Germany shortly after.  This interview, though, deciding what route we will go in the future, what  my  future will look like in the U.S. after now almost two years, is seriously nerve wrecking. People - including Rickey himself - keep telling us that there is no reason for me to have sleepless nights and a whole lot of stomach issues because of it. We have chosen to create a life together and just so happen to have different nationalities. It happens. But if we want to live here in the U.S., we - well, technically  I  - have to go through this immigration procedure.   The hardest part? I do understand why that is. People seem to get very frustrated with the process but I can totally understand why the U.S. make potential permanent residents go through this lengthy process. After all, you want to be sure this person - this marriage - is legit, and get an idea of who they might be calling a potential permanent resident if the application is approved.   So, is it a matter of chance or preparation? You know, I think it’s a bit of both. Of course we are required to bring a lot of documents, pictures whatsoever to prove that we are “legit”, but it’s also about being authentic - as we are - and hence trusting that the U.S. Officer interviewing us will soon come to realize that we are just a couple with different passports that just so happened to choose a life stateside. Because if it’s real, there shouldn’t be anything to worry about - I keep telling myself to calm my nerves here. But again, it is a big step and until approved, I am that type of person who gets way too nervous.   I have faith that everything will work out - and Rickey is positive as always. At least one of us who can sleep at night and doesn’t burst out in tears at the most random times of the day.   My feelings are so mixed right now. I am absolutely excited to kick start my brand makeover, anxious about this interview, yet so absolutely excited to be going to Germany with Rickey shortly after. Lots of photos and travel report coming. I cannot wait.   But I know once it is over - hopefully successfully - I will have so much more time to actually look forward to our church wedding in January and the visit of my friends and family.   That’s it for now, friends. Just a quick check in and I hope you stick around for updates and understand my current MIA status.    Exciting things are happening! My complete brand makeover project is about to kick off and I am so thrilled to take this space here to a whole different level with the help of The Better Business Babe. Because, let’s be honest: This little blog here is neither very professional nor appealing. So stay tuned, something beautiful is about to happen.     Instagram  //  Twitter

You know, it’s funny and so darn scary at the same time when you think that someone who has never met you before has the power to judge your relationship and ultimately decide over your future. You wonder: How much will I have to prepare to prove that we have chosen a life together? Or will too much preparation come off weird, because why would you need to prepare for something that simply requires authenticity and a whole lot of love?

I know I have been pretty much missing in action over here but this has three main reasons: I decided to take the leap and invest in the development of my content creation business and complete brand makeover, which means a lot of “homework”; Rickey and I are in the final stages of church wedding planning and the little details seem to be the most stressful ones; well, and then there is our eagerly awaited “interview” next week before we head to Germany shortly after.

This interview, though, deciding what route we will go in the future, what my future will look like in the U.S. after now almost two years, is seriously nerve wrecking. People - including Rickey himself - keep telling us that there is no reason for me to have sleepless nights and a whole lot of stomach issues because of it. We have chosen to create a life together and just so happen to have different nationalities. It happens. But if we want to live here in the U.S., we - well, technically I - have to go through this immigration procedure. 

The hardest part? I do understand why that is. People seem to get very frustrated with the process but I can totally understand why the U.S. make potential permanent residents go through this lengthy process. After all, you want to be sure this person - this marriage - is legit, and get an idea of who they might be calling a potential permanent resident if the application is approved. 

So, is it a matter of chance or preparation? You know, I think it’s a bit of both. Of course we are required to bring a lot of documents, pictures whatsoever to prove that we are “legit”, but it’s also about being authentic - as we are - and hence trusting that the U.S. Officer interviewing us will soon come to realize that we are just a couple with different passports that just so happened to choose a life stateside. Because if it’s real, there shouldn’t be anything to worry about - I keep telling myself to calm my nerves here. But again, it is a big step and until approved, I am that type of person who gets way too nervous. 

I have faith that everything will work out - and Rickey is positive as always. At least one of us who can sleep at night and doesn’t burst out in tears at the most random times of the day. 

My feelings are so mixed right now. I am absolutely excited to kick start my brand makeover, anxious about this interview, yet so absolutely excited to be going to Germany with Rickey shortly after. Lots of photos and travel report coming. I cannot wait. 

But I know once it is over - hopefully successfully - I will have so much more time to actually look forward to our church wedding in January and the visit of my friends and family. 

That’s it for now, friends. Just a quick check in and I hope you stick around for updates and understand my current MIA status. 

Exciting things are happening! My complete brand makeover project is about to kick off and I am so thrilled to take this space here to a whole different level with the help of The Better Business Babe. Because, let’s be honest: This little blog here is neither very professional nor appealing. So stay tuned, something beautiful is about to happen. 

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